Dont panic or worry if you find a problem or something goes wrong, when something bad happens your immediate reaction is either to worry, be scared, panic or could even be to cry, but at that point you know something? You know that’s it it’s done, you can’t change it, at that point you have to switch to damage control, you go from problem to solution, and the speed you do that is critical to minimising the pain, that pain could be loosing money, a business, a partner, anything, you have to stop any impact on your family, you gotta take this on the chin and fix it that’s it, most of the time getting in to the mess your worrying about take effect and time, if you where willing to put the effort in then working to get out won’t be impossible, but what you don’t do is keep panicking! Because when you panic or worry after somethings happened, after they imminent shock or a problem you’r doing 2 things.
the first is your wasting time, this thing or problem has happened, we’ve established it cant be changed and you need to move forward, you need to switch on and start reversing it, or rectify the problem, damage control is important and it’s critical you start straight away to minimalise the fall out, it could mean moving money to stop a financial leak of funds, it could mean getting legal advise to minimalise a possible prosecution. It could mean rebuilding your life by changing or getting away. Either way the solution has to start straight away.
And the 2nd is simple! Worrying means you suffer twice, you’ve had the shock and you have the brusing from the problem. Prevention is better than cure so make steps to re-build and start again, but this time stronger and with that extra knowledge that this will never and I mean never happen again.
A simple smile has more power than you know!
Your attitude towards people throughout your day collectively shapes the world as we see it and you don’t even realise it! From the home with your family to the commute with total strangers each morning, to the work place, how you interact with each other subconsciously sets in motion how you and that person reacts to the next and the next, from just missing you train to someone taking your usual parking space!, the negative chain of events gets passed down the line affecting each person like nocking down dominos! But it also works in the opposite positive manner just as well, you get to the train to find someone holding the door for you so you don’t miss it, a smile and a thank you then sparks a conversation that opens the door to a more positive outcome when you that person interacts with the next person on your separate journeys throughout the day, they are more likely to pass on that positive vibe just as the negative one was pasted on before to the next social interaction and the difference was an act of kindness or expression as simple as holding a door or a negative selfish act or just pretending not to see them and not holding the door that sparked a chain of events on the next person on that path.
In business you sometimes have to be ruthless, cutting out dead wood! It’s part of the job and as a result makes you a professional and it’s part of the responsibility of leadership.
But you don’t have to be ruthless on a personal level out of the office or work place, that just makes you an arsehole.
But there are like in all areas! Exceptions to the rule, for instance! Cutting negativity out Of your life should be done clean and swift with the same level of ruthlessness as in business I except as well as expect that.
If someone is bringing you down, abusive or if they are emotionally blackmailing you or just always putting down everything and everyone around you? then they have to go and they have to go quick before it becomes routine for both of you.
The brain learns quickly, its built to pick up habits and trends so it can adapt, and to much of that negative attitude becomes infectious as your brain adapts to it and soon you will find yourself moving in that direction because your social situation makes it habit therefore your brain adapts.
Now if it’s a family member then you can’t just cut them out as easy, but you have to take steps to change the environment or remove yourself from the situation altogether, most people aren’t born negative they change and adapt to it due to there surroundings, environment or situation, a Positive implementation to help them change the course of there mindset is key, as just like negative vibes can change the brains paten into believing that’s the right path, positive vibes can start to reverse this effect by turning it back in the opposite direction, and fortunately the beauty of this process is the brain never stops learning and adopting so it can be done over time.
Your attitude is everything, it enters the room with you and shapes every conversation you have each day, it shapes your children’s attitude as they adapt super fast to there surroundings and your relationships or social interaction, it’s that powerful it can change the course of a life when teaching in both children and adults, everyone can remember that one teacher you loved, and its because they captivated you, held your attention in a way that made you want to listen and engage and most importantly learn, that’s the power you hold with your attitude.
Attitude is the platform to launch enthusiasm in the actions of yourself and others, it can make you feel good as well as bad, happy or sad, this is the key to changing mindsets and training your brain and the others around you to perform at the highest level for the most positive outcome.
Attitude towards helping people also brings a sense of euphoria, a feeling of achievement that you have the power to perform a small act of kindness to change someone’s day with something as little as a smile, now that’s true power.
So smile! because that’s where it starts, that’s were the power is and it’s in your hands, and with great power comes great responsibility, it’s your responsibility to help others, so go on smile! you might just change someone’s life!
It’s not about what you do during your 9 to 5 that defines you, this is your job and its purpose is to pay the Bill’s and finance your plan to build your dream, what really matters is what you do after your 9 to 5 this is the time that will determine your entire future!
Don’t go to work at your 9 to 5 and moan about how shit your job and life is if you don’t come home and work on your own dreams between 5 and 9, this is your time and you need to use it wisely!
But I don’t have time! but what about seeing my kids and my wife? If you leave your job at 5 it takes let’s say 1 hour to get home, on that commute watch videos on your chosen goal, if its Amazon FBA then watch every video and training you can to master it, but what of theres no service on the commute? Then download the videos from you tube using the you tube membership, stop your excuses, if your comute is longer then good! You got more time to read, watch and learn!
But what about family time? Lets say it 6:30 by the time your in! Once you get in eat with your family, spend some time with your kids, read them a story and take them to bed, then get your lap top, phone, iPad and if not or your from the stone age and don’t possess any of these then grad a pad and pencil. Sit in the bed next to your wife and bounce your ideas off her, she can help provide you with a fresh prospective and a level of honesty with criticism you wont get anywhere else! Your a team and she should not only feel part of your evolution into something that will make your happier and more successful but a partner in the process and your journey.
Keep notes, write down ideas, write them down like they were chapters in a book, elaborate, go into detail, each day start a new page with a different idea or note, go back to them every day and build them, add to them and make them grow because one of these ideas could change your life.
You do have time to work on your dreams, one idea is better than no ideas, and one idea written down is now a plan, elaborate on just one of those ideas and then you have a goal, when you have a goal you now have a target, a direction, a focus point and a purpose and now you have momentum and your one step closer to your dreams.
I call this the stop watch technique, so what is the stop watch technique?
all the time your sitting there doing nothing, nothing will happen!
But the second you take action, you press the stop watch button that starts the count down to your goal.
All the time your working on your goals that clock is ticking down till you have the freedom you dreamed, and that goal becomes your reality.